An actress, businesswoman, writer and speaker, Kathleen is a founding partner (with husband, Phil Cooke) and VP at Cooke Pictures in Burbank CA (cookepictures.com). Kathleen is responsible for casting and providing creative consulting for CP’s projects and productions which include some of the leading nonprofits and ministries in the country. She is on the advisory board for the Hollywood Prayer Network and Hollywood Connect and is the former director of Christian Women In Media Association Hollywood/West Coast. She and Phil recently launched The Influence Lab Foundation, influencelab.com, focusing on research, teaching and training the next generation of media professionals. She is the editor of the monthly publication of Influence Women, influencelab.com/women.
Kathleen has given Be-A BusyGal permission to re-publish her blogs and articles from their original sources.
Be-A-BusyGal Posting Date: February 12, 2015 | Posting #3
“WHOLE HEARTED” CREATIVE ARTISTS
It takes guts to be creative in today culture. That nagging little voice in our head is always telling us we aren’t good enough, talented enough, or trained enough. One of my favorite writers on the subject is Brene Brown. She is a brilliant researcher and professor at the University of Houston. She recently did one of the top 10 TED talks for 2014 on the Whole Hearted Person. Here is a portion of what she found and concluded from 6 years of research on vulnerability. She found that “people who have a strong sense of love and belonging – worthiness had it because they believed they were loved and belonged and were worthy.” She found that these people had three specific traits in common:
1. Courage – they had courage to be imperfect.
2. Compassion – they were kind to themselves and to others
3. Connection – they were willing to let go who they thought they should be in order to be who they were.
In today’s culture finding whole hearted people is becoming rare. It requires us to be completely vulnerable or as Brene calls it, excruciatingly vulnerable. As artists and creatives putting ourselves out there (opening our souls with our art) so the world can see our good, bad, and ugly instantly onYouTube, iTunes, Facebook, and Twitter is terrifying. So many great artists either stay hidden or numb themselves first because the risk is too excruciating. How many great writers have you read about that drank all night before they started writing a word? Or rock stars that had to get high on something before they went on stage?
What if you could take a different route as an artist in 2015 to deal with vulnerability and plug into a source of power that allowed you to be free and courageous without destroying your body, or mind, and sometimes your life? There is one, and His name is Jesus. He loves you unconditionally – imperfections and all. He makes you worthy because He has forgiven you – completely -freed you from guilt and shame and imperfection.
Want to be a whole hearted artist? Might be worth a try to talk to Him. He’s a breath away. Start the New Year on a new path and with new thinking – start whole heartedly.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self discipline.”
II Timothy 1:7 NLT
Be-A-BusyGal Posting Date: February 5, 2015 | Posting #2
Over Coming Self Doubt
Abraham is called the “father of faith.” He heard God’s voice and went for it – not perfectly, but consistently. We see many incredible examples of his enormous faith outlined in scripture. We also see a few times when Abraham didn’t have so much faith. Like when he tried to tell King Abimelech that Sarah was his sister and not his wife in Genesis chapters 20 and 21. I love how our human nature is revealed here and we see Abraham trying to be sneaky because Sarah was technically his sister – his half-sister. He tried to take care of the situation on his own and chose not to rely on God.
Are you trying to fix something, force something forward, or step out into a fearful situation but using your own strength and wisdom? Have you forgotten the promises of God?
God asks us to go – not alone…but with Him. Abraham tried to do this most of the time but he too failed. It was only Jesus that did it perfectly… every time. Abraham’s faith allowed him to journey with God relying on God’s promises that He was building a permanent place for Abraham and for his family for generations to come – a promised land. That fearless faith propelled Abraham to become influential and successful.
What has God promised you? Do you regularly re-visit those promises and use them to propel you forward to all that God has for you? Or are you compromising and avoiding God’s abundance in your life and relying on your natural talents and cleverness?
God seldom reveals our life’s building plan. Most of the time we don’t have a clue what we are doing, where we are going, or where we will end up. God just says “go” – obey – have faith. Are you willing to let God be your architect and lay a foundation of fearless faith built on consistent obedience?
Hebrews 11:8-10 says, “By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going. By faith he made his home in the promised land like a stranger in a foreign country; he lived in tents, as did Isaac and Jacob, who were heirs with him of the same promise. For he was looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God.”
Don’t waiver, don’t compromise…stand in faith.
Be-A-BusyGal Posting Date: March 24, 2014 | Posting #1
What’s Driving You?
The need to excel, and to be great, noble, wise, strong, or a “rock star” is a natural human longing. It’s why we love hero movies. But our media culture today has brainwashed us into thinking that unless we reach “stardom” we are failures. We live in a culture that always wants more. More money, power, intelligence, or whatever our heart, mind or passions desire. If we aren’t beautiful enough, wealthy enough, or intelligent enough, we will never be happy or content. This “not enough” cultural virus is a rampant and pervasive disease in our world today. Striving for more can be a healthy and a noble thing, but slavery to it will kill you and can rob you of ever attaining happiness and contentment.
I was 5 when my brother, Robbie, died. He had been born without a valve in his heart and the doctors did experimental surgery and inserted a pigs valve to replace it. They thought it might last 6 months. He was 6 when it finally fell apart and in an effort to replace it again died on the operating table. Having experience this, I grew up wanting to be the perfect child to my parents that they had lost. I focused on being smarter, faster, stronger, and more cleaver than anyone else. But it became evident to me quickly, as I failed constantly, that I wasn’t enough and never would be enough.
I lived in constant fear and in hiding that I would be found out to be…well…human.
I was being raised in the city of lights, Las Vegas. It is a city centered on gambling, glitz, glamour, fast money, and the ability to be deceptive. That environment taught me how to be pretty, shiny, sparkly and manipulative on the outside while hiding the truth behind a façade. I saw how people manipulated reality which was usually short lived and disastrous. My best friends father was a gambler. She would literally show up for school one day with a brand new car and the next day a beat up clunker depending on whether he was winning or loosing at the tables. She lived a life of complete uncertainty and it had an effect on her decisions throughout her life. Las Vegas still holds the record for more suicides than any other city in the world. It is one of the brightest and most electrically lit cities in the world and yet one of the darkest and loneliness cities on the planet. Vegas gave me my first acting lessons and an introduction on how not to trust people. I saw how people played one role on the outside and one role in their personal lives.
I was also being raised in a (though not perfect) Christian home where I was able to experience the grace of Jesus. At an early age, I came to learn and understand unconditional love and forgiveness and that God was enough. In Him I found true connection that I could trust and contentment and peace from the disease called “not enough.” You will fail, and our world will let you down, but God’s grace allows you to tear down the façade, call your failure by name, and build a solid connection and foundation in life again. Learn to forgive yourself for being human. Jesus has already.
What experiences in life have you been through that have had an effect on your life and career?
What façade are you living behind or that you are in denial about that if you would change could effect the outcome in your life?